If you asked me last week at this time what this week’s blog post would be about, I would’ve told you, our trip to DC. Because up until Thursday at around 4 p.m., we had plans to do a 3-day-weekend in DC, starting at 5 a.m. Friday morning. It would be LM and FW’s first flight, and we were excited to have our first vacation away from home as a family since last July.
Wow, this past week into the weekend was filled with too much fun stuff. From ladies’ nights to running to marathon ambassador meetups to celebrations, we were BUSY. But it was all fun, so I can’t really complain? Though, I do feel like I need a day off to recover!
Thursday night was a meetup with the Cleveland Marathon Ambassadors. We met up at Pinstripes for food, fun, drinks and bowling!
We had a busy week here and it’s almost time to start training for the Cleveland half marathon challenge in May. I’ve been trying to just keep up my mileage so that when training starts in a week or so, I’m ready to go. So right now, I’m all about just keeping up that base (mileage, that is, of course).
That meant 30ish miles total this week, broken down into 6 days of running and Saturday off (just a walk with the family): Continue reading
“What are you guys doing this weekend?” My mom asked me on one of our daily calls (yes, we talk pretty much daily) this week.
“I don’t think we have anything planned,” I replied. And then I checked our calendar. Sure enough, this is the last weekend before the holidays with absolutely nothing on our calendar! So, I was looking forward to having nothing planned and doing whatever we wanted. Which turned into a date night, several trips to the museum, a visit to the library, a playground stop and more.
Here’s what the weekend entailed:
I have a decent amount of vacation time left this year, so I decided to take a few hours off Friday and hang out with FW. This meant we had some fun one-on-one time, which included going to the “pancake store” for lemon ricotta pancakes.
Wow – can you believe it is already November? Here’s a look at what our weekend entailed:
Friday night sushi. Because I haven’t had some in a while and it hit the spot!
What a busy, fun weekend! It felt nonstop with tons of activities packed into the 2 days. Which means that it was of course another weekend that went too fast.
The weekend started with a 5k race on Friday evening. The Sunset Sprint 5k is a fundraiser for a board that B is on, and I decided semi-last minute to run it.
It takes place right next to the beach, so we had a little picnic and spent some time on the beach after the race.
And caught the gorgeous sunset.
Saturday morning I did an easy run and then it was time for my future-sister-in-law’s shower!
There were so many treats, including these amazing miniature wedding cakes that my mother-in-law made.
It was fun showering the bride-to-be and I can’t believe the wedding is just 2 months away!
I didn’t get home from the shower until late afternoon, so we really only had time for a little excursion with the kids. We walked to the nearby playground and had some fun while they ran around.
Saturday night, after the kids went to bed, B and I watched a movie. I stayed up for a WHOLE movie and really enjoyed it! We watched About Time – have you seen it?
Sunday morning started with a run – this time with the whole family. B pushed LM and I pushed FW in the stroller.
After the run, it was time to spend the later morning/afternoon with B’s family. This week is two of my brother-in-laws’ birthdays, so we spent some time celebrating with the family and enjoying an amazing brunch.
FW and LM had a great time playing with their cousins and chowing down.
The rest of the evening was spent low-key – we did some meal prep, yard work, shopping and NAPTIME. Any day both of the kids nap at the same time is amazing.
Some questions for you:
- What’s your favorite brunch food?
- Have you ever done a nighttime race?
It’s been a year since I went on maternity leave for the second time. I’ll be honest with you — reentering the workforce was not easy. At least it never has been for me. After 12ish weeks way, I am rarely emotionally ready to come back to work; however, the second time around, at least I knew somewhat to expect. And after re-entering the workforce two times now, I’ve learned from my mistakes.
Here’s what NOT to do upon your reentry to the workforce after maternity leave:
Try to fit into your old work clothes
Unless you are one of those people who somehow fit miraculously into all your pre-pregnancy clothes within just a few weeks, you may need to go shopping for a few essentials. Even if you are back at your pre-baby weight, your body may look different. A stellar new “first day of school work” outfit (or 2) can make all the difference as you re-join office life.
Expect things to be the same
You just had a baby. You were home for (if you’re lucky) several weeks. When you come back, cut yourself some slack – it will take some time to get back into the swing of things. But things may not be the same. For example, you may no longer be able to stay at the office late whenever you want; you may need to leave right on time to make sure you don’t arrive at daycare pickup one minute past 6. You may longer be able to be in all-day (or even 3-hour) meetings. No, you may need to find time to pump. You will probably cherish weekends a whole lot more. Things won’t be the same, but as long as you realize this in advance, it can help you prepare.
Expect things to be different
At the same time, things won’t be much different. Your coworkers/clients will still expect you to be at the top of your game, to make those meetings and to keep your usual hours. You may need to set some boundaries as you figure out your new schedule.
The fact that I was going back to work made me feel guilty. Then, when I couldn’t stay late or go to as many work happy hours I felt guilty. At night, if I was doing work after the kids went to bed, I felt guilty that I wasn’t spending time with my husband. Mom guilt comes in a variety of forms, but it doesn’t make any situation better. Cut yourself some slack – you’re doing the best you can.
Go at it by yourself
Being a working parent isn’t easy. And it’s even harder without someone to confide in about the everyday dilemmas (being 15 minutes late due to a potty training accident as you were leaving the house), hardships (having to take off unexpectedly due to your kid’s stomach flu) and milestones (preschool graduation). If you have other working parents in your office, grab coffee with them. Talk to friends outside of work. We’re all in this together and it’s better to have a support group. And find something that makes you feel like you — for me, that’s running. Without my support group and running, re-entering the workforce would’ve been much harder!
Question for you:
- Did you recently come back from maternity leave? What would you add?
- Have you reentered the workforce from maternity leave or another leave (sabbatical, etc.)? How did you handle it?
Note: In all the pictures above, I’m wearing Skirt Sports — hangout jacket, jette skirt and redemption run shorts. They’ve been with me through pregnancy AND beyond! I’m a brand ambassador, so if you end up purchasing anything, feel free to use the code SSA791Mel for 5% off.